It’s funny, life is so different from one generation to the next, and yet many of the “rules” stay the same: go to school, graduate high school, go to college, graduate college, get a job, get a Graduate Degree, climb up the corporate ladder… Sounds familiar?
But back in the day, I had no problem following those rules. When you’re young and everyone tells you that’s what you need to do in order to be happy, that’s what you do. You don’t know any better.
And if you’ve had a difficult childhood like me, this magical step-ladder to “happily ever after” becomes even more tempting.
Yet, sooner or later, at a certain level, you realize the ladder is a scam. It does give you some certainty and certainty is important. But other things are also important.
And here’s the deal about this realization: very few have the courage to change directions. So, because life always works for you and not against you, destiny makes sure you fall. And it hurts!
When me and my mother moved to Phoenix, AZ to live our life in the Sun, I was honestly excited.
Any change can get your adrenalin pumping, and so for a moment there you think: OK, I was wrong, this really is what happiness is all about.
I found a new job that I liked and just as I started feeling safe and secure again, destiny intervened. My new boss – you know who you are, and thank you for doing this! – wrote me up to the Sr. Director of Human Resources for a silly, silly thing and this situation changed me.
I know some people go through much more dramatic things. But to you that are now thinking to yourself, “So your boss hurt your ego, big deal, I have much more serious problems”, here’s what I have to say: the more you fail to find what you were really meant to do on this Earth, the more destiny will push you off the ladder.
So you having a lot of problems is just another sign that you need to get to your personal breakthrough NOW, before the next huge challenge comes along.
But for me having a job where I felt unappreciated, having to take care of my retired mother and having no friends or family to count on was enough. I went into my room, got in the bed and pulled the covers over my head – I did not want my mother to hear me cry. But after I was done crying, I decided I wanted to take the control over my life back.
Are you at that point? Good. You can only go up from here.