Mindset Matters: Stop Self-Sabotage

Mindset Matters: Stop Self-Sabotage

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We all do it. No matter how successful you are, at one time or another you’ll fall into the self-sabotage trap, and the price of admission is high.

  • Income will suffer.
  • Self-esteem will plummet.
  • Confidence will find new lows.

The end result? Frustration. Burnout. Resentment of (you fill in the blanks). And yes, even more self-sabotaging behaviors. This downward spiral can quickly turn devastating, but stopping it is easy when you learn to recognize the symptoms.

Self-Sabotage Habit 1: Procrastination

Did you mean to apply for that high-end coaching program but missed the deadline? Or maybe you were going to apply for that higher grade job, but waited too long? Or maybe you simply waited too long to take advantage of a sale price on a hot new app that everyone’s raving about.

These and other missed opportunities can often be blamed on simple procrastination, one of the most destructive habits we suffer from. Procrastination is what keeps us working late at night to make a deadline, costs us money in late fees, and even costs us business.

3 Tips To End Procrastination

  • Recognize your fear. What often keeps us stuck is simple fear. We’re afraid that even with that amazing coach we still won’t reach our goals, so we put off applying. Afraid we’ll look bad in contrast to other applicants, so we just don’t apply. But if you want to move from aspiring entrepreneur to an new entrepreneur, you must learn to recognize and face your fears, then do the work anyway.
  • Visualize the life and business you desire. Imagine what it will be like to have that amazing business you’ve been dreaming about. Picture your ideal workday, daydream about that fabulous vacation you’ll take, and imagine VIP days with your ideal client.
  • Reward yourself. It’s okay to give yourself a little incentive for getting things done. Take yourself out to lunch; buy a new pair of shoes; take an afternoon off. Do what’s most likely to motivate you to power through your fears and take the next step.

Check out my blog to get even more tips on curtailing your procrastination

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Self-Sabotage Habit 2:

Failing to Complete Your Projects

Be honest. How many half-written books, partially planned programs, and unfinished projects are cluttering up your hard drive right now?

If you’re like a lot of aspiring entrepreneurs, the answer is probably several.

You started all of them with great enthusiasm. You planned out the modules or chapters, created the slide decks. And then…you just stopped working on it.

Maybe you tell yourself that you’re too busy. Maybe you “need to do some more research.” Or maybe you simply lost interest. The truth is, none of those are certainly the real reason. For a lot of aspiring entrepreneurs, this self-sabotage habit is actually a symptom of a lack of confidence, and it’s keeping you from the success you deserve.

Just Do It!

Consider this: You cannot know the actual success rate of a program you’ve never finished, and you cannot improve upon something you’ve never completed. Rather than filling your hard drive with half-finished projects, power through and start completing them, even if you believe they’re not perfect, and won’t ever catch on.

Book Recommendation

Jen Sincero shares moving stories, clever advice, simple exercises, to help you Recognize and cease the self-sabotage beliefs and behaviors that are keeping you from the life you want. You will learn where these patterns started, to accept the things you cannot change, and to take on the things you can. (Click on the book to check it out)

One easy and quick step to reverse self-sabotage is to know your superpower.  When you can stand in your power, your confidence grows.  Take this fund and quick quiz to find out.  Click the button below the post.

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Renee Lamb

Renee has over 15+ years of experience in the corporate world. She has had management roles in HR, international healthcare and project management. But the role she loves the most is Job Exit Strategist for her own company, Renee M. Lamb, LLC. Renee is not only passionate for, (well maybe obsessed) being an advocate for helping professionals to gain freedom and wealth via entrepreneurship. She believes her role is to give them wings so they can soar to greater heights on their entrepreneurship journey. She does this by her coaching programs and courses.

  • Holly Bird says:

    Another truly insightful post! Thank you again…I love your blog!

  • Joan Cajic says:

    This is really nice, I do self sabotage all the time and I know it ,mostly procrastinating every single time or when I eed to come to any decision. It can also cause me lots of stress and anxiety. I think I need to just do it and let it go too.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      Joan – yes it can be exhausting. Procrastination is a symptom of the real problem. In my Free Masterclass, I go over how to deal with it. Thanks for sharing.

  • stacey says:

    You are right, half the battle is recognizing your fears. Then addressing them and overcoming them.

  • I dont even realize how much I sabatoge myself. This post was a wakeup call.

  • Stephanie says:

    Very insightful! Thank you for sharing your book recommendations as well — i’m always looking for new content to read!

  • Carina says:

    Great tips! Since starting my blog I feel like I’ve been procrastinating and putting off designated time to finish my articles. These tips are helpful, thanks!

  • I am such a procrastinator! You should see me in action! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and these great tips, I will put them in action from today.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      Fran I love it. That is the best thing to do, is to put new things into action as soon as possible. So you can start to break the procrastination cycle. Kuddos to you!

  • kumamonjeng says:

    This is so inspiring to read and motivate me to stop being harsh to myself. I love the fact that rewarding yourself for little milestones achieved.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      We all wait to reward ourselves for the big goals or till we meet our final goal. But who knows the timing of when that will happen. So we tend to burnout on our way to achieving the goal. To keep you going, you have to celebrate while on the journey.

  • Heather says:

    I am a total self-sabotager! I do it every single time I think things are too good.

  • Merichelle says:

    These are all great tips! I can procrastinate a lot, but I’m trying to get better!

  • Debby says:

    I truly believe that for most of us, we can be our worst enemy. We judge ourselves too harshly and often self-sabotage. Learning self-love and empowerment is important for us all.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      Yes you are so right. If we talked to other people, the way we talk to ourselves we would not have any friends. That should tell us something. That we need to start giving ourselves the grace, we give to others.

  • Silvia says:

    As I was reading this post I was checking the things I do to self-sabotage myself. I think procrastination is my number one.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      Procrastination is a nasty heifer. LOL She gets us all. But it is not the problem, it is the symptom to the real problem. We have to dig deeper to figure out what is not working. When we deal with the real root cause then the procrastination for that issue goes away.

  • I’m terrible about procrastinating when it comes to some things. I can see how rewarding myself would help me turn that around.

  • Indeed such a great and mind blowing post. Recognizing our weaknesses and fears is a must. Thanks for this!

  • I know all about self sabotage and this is really a good post to help me get out of procrastinating. I think it would help me to reward my self.

  • Sigrid Says says:

    Indeed a of the things that happen in our lives is because of the result of the things that we conjure in our heads. I should fill up my head with more positive thoughts. These days, my emotions are really getting way too much.

    • Renee Lamb says:

      Don’t be so hard on yourself. We all go through allowing our emotions to get the best of us. Recognize it, then do something to change it. Get back into a space of gratitude.

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