Learn the steps I take when I find I am fearful to move towards my goals, because I think I will be a failure.
Acknowledge the Fear
When you recognize you are not moving toward your desired goal due to fear. Acknowledge the fear. Do not avoid it and do something you enjoy more. By acknowledging it, you can start the process of dealing with it. Also, you need to say it aloud. I am fearful of failing at XYZ
Now that you acknowledge it, you most likely will feel it strong in your body. So, center yourself by breathing. Not the shallow breath. But deep breathes. Take 3-5 deep breathes. Breathe in through your nose to fill expand your stomach. Hold the breath slightly for a second. Then slowly breath through your mouth. At the end, you should feel your body relax. If you have to do more than 5 deep breathes do it. Don’t rush pass this step.
Identify What You Really Want
When you are overcome with fear cause you think you will fail, this is the time to pause. Sometimes, fear can overpower your ability to see your goal clearly. You get lost in the emotion and lose sight of your vision. Reflect on what it is that you want. Is your goal to start your business? Or is your goal to speak at a conference, get on a board or be a contributing writer for a media platform? Focus on your end goal to stabilize yourself. When you can see your goal, you are in a better position to tackle it. Don’t let fear cloud your vision.
Identify The Obstacle
Once you regain your footing and clarity on what you want, own up to what is making you fearful of failure. Afraid of criticism for not knowing something? Are you afraid of failing to be yourself? Are you afraid of competition? What specific part are you afraid at failing at?
Understand what is stopping you so that you can overcome it. If you don’t see the hurdle, you can’t jump over it. Embrace the barrier to break free from it.
Recognize The Benefit Of Fear
Fear in any form means you are outside of your comfort zone. So, ask yourself these two questions
- Do you want to retreat to your comfort zone?
- Or, do you want to move forward to your growth?
So, if you are deciding to stay in your comfort zone at least 51% of the time, then do not get mad when you see others passing you by. Even that person you think you are just as smart as or could do a better job. The difference could be they chose to move towards growth at least 51% of the time.
See, with growth comes new skills. With new skills, you can leverage into capital. Intellectual capital (mean becoming an authority figure on a specific subject matter) and/or Monetary capital, packaging your skills into a product or program to be sold.
Tell me in the comments which step will you add to your way of overcoming fear of failure. Also let me know if there are others steps you take that is not mentioned.